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We Could All Benefit From Using the Block Button

We Could All Benefit From Using the Block Button

We all have that one ex that just can’t seem to get the drift. No matter how you word it or how many none verbal signals you send, still they persist.

For some reason, the lightbulb somehow goes off after you call it quits and stop answering their late night, “You up?” text messages that turns their habit of what was once inconsistency into pure relentlessness, teetering into stalker zone.

This is the case with one of my "ex’s" that lead me to one of the best decision I’ve made in my young Black life: BLOCKING him.

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It may seem like a simple form of action, but blocking someone who you were once friends with,  and who, at some point, held a piece of your heart, is an act of self-disciple that should and will be applauded. Not only are you ending immediate communication with this ex-significant other, you're also withdrawing the opportunity for them to watch via Instagram your perpetual and continuous glow-up.

Excuse me for being petty for one ... or two... good times in my life... but there’s just something deeply satisfying knowing that somewhere in the dark of the night, your ex is taking the time to pull up your name on their search history (because you already know it’s there) to arrive at your page, and begin to cautiously scroll through your profile with the fear of tapping a selfie from 34 weeks ago. When you block them you’re forfeiting this gratification.

Still, sometimes of toughest things in life are the most necessary.

But you see, the BLOCK feature on our phones shouldn’t be limited to just our personal relationships, in fact, I would argue that the act of BLOCKING is more of a spiritual action than a physical one.  

My idea of “BLOCKING” isn’t just about who we let text us...it’s about what messages we’re allowing into our space.

You ever start your day off feeling good and hopeful about what lied ahead, then all of a sudden, a co-worker or friend comes up to you and just starts bleeding all of their life’s woes onto your perfectly blotch-free day. Maybe you have that one family member who’s in an unhealthy relationship that comes to you to complain, only to never really want to seek change. Or maybe you’re one of those people who are a glutton for pain, looking into what everyone else is doing instead of focusing on what’s your plate.

Well, my friend, I’d like to present to you the BLOCK BUTTON and it can be all yours for the insanely low price of $FREE.99!

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You see, Proverbs 4:23 advises us to guard our heart above all else, for it (as in your heart) determines the course of our life. There are times when we allow the words of others, negativity, or even our own self-sabotaging thoughts to enter into our hearts and completely take us off course. We lose our sense of direction.

Why don’t see fight? Why don’t we speak up against what it is that’s trying to corrupt our views by telling them that they have no room here in our heart?

My idea of “BLOCKING” isn’t just about who we let text us or see your Instagram profile, it’s about what messages we’re allowing into our space.

So how to you use your personal BLOCK feature?

Well, you can start by actually blocking people.

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For real. If there’s someone or something that isn’t agreeing with where you are in life, that may take you back a few steps, or that may plant negative thoughts in your head, kindly remove them from your space, and BLOCK.

But let’s also be real, there are some things that negatively impact us that we, ourselves, create. So what do you do? You BLOCK your own dang self! Yes, that’s possible.

When those thoughts come up that aren’t doing anything but discouraging you, you have to combat them with positive ones. “Fix your thoughts on things that are true, honorable, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, and worthy of praise,” as Philippians 4:8 tell us. It’s those things that will fuel you and strengthen you as you journey to the next level.

It doesn’t make you weak or cowardly to BLOCK people or thoughts. In fact, it empowers you to take back what is yours: peace of mind.  

For some, it many just be social media, or an ex, or a co-worker with a cloud over their head, but for others, like me, it’s more than that: it’s a gateway. A gateway that only I have the keys to.

Who knew healing was only a block away. 

Before you go: How will you practice using your BLOCKING feature? Leave a comment below letting me know how you're thoughts!

Peace, peace, peace,

Aley Arion

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