Why Being Single on Valentine’s Day Isn’t *Really* That Bad
Roses are red, violets are blue.
You’re single AF, but there’s still hope for you!
Alright, I get it. You’re single and if you’re reading this, chances are you probably wish you weren’t. Similar to you, I always feel “more” single than normal around the first few days of February when the 6-foot tall stuffed animals and billboard-sized Valentine’s Day cards go on display in what seems like just minutes after Christmas ended.
It’s like there’s no time for us single girls to breath. We get inundated with images of what love looks like during holiday season, then once we finally get a chance to come up for air *BOMB!* here comes Cupid shuffling around to add salt to our wounds.
Valentine’s Day didn’t always make me want to vomit though, in fact, it was quite the opposite.
Remember when we were younger, and it was all fun and games and no one was ever made to feel left out? Everyone walked away from school with a self-decorated paper bag filled to the brim with V-Day candy and the pieces of their self-esteem still intact. But oh, add a little puberty with sprinkle in some teenage hormones and the Day of Love quickly turned into Doomsday. I hated feeling like no one wanted my slinky, four-eyed behind. Valentine’s Day became an annual reminded that I wasn’t “good enough” to receive love.
Honestly, it’s quite morbid if you think about it. After all, I wanted nothing more than to have the perfect man, perfect date, and perfect Valentine’s Day. Was that really too much to ask for?
It wasn’t until maybe a year or two ago where I just had enough of being drug by this daunting holiday and started to reclaim my time and worth.
Look, Valentine’s Day – in commercial terms – is a day to celebrate love, but that doesn’t disqualify you just because you don’t have a significant other to claim. Have we forgotten about all the other different forms of love? The love of a parent. The love of a sibling. The love of a pet. The love of self. Or, most importantly, the love of God!
I know that being single on Valentine’s Day may seem more amplified because of the use of social media in this share-all-tell-all world we live in, but if it’s too much for you to see other people shine in their love, then maybe you should log off, sis.
Either that or take some time to remember just how privileged you are as a single women.
For one, you didn’t spend a dime today! You were being financially conscious and didn’t even know it, girl. There was no time wasted in line trying to buy a $50 stuffed animal that was just going to collect dust once all the holiday hype is gone. You have money in your pocket for rent, sis, rejoice and be glad.
May I also add that although you may believe that your internal clock is ticking at the ripe are of 24, *side eye* your best days are still ahead of you!
Sometimes, when I get discouraged on my walk in singlehood, I just sit and daydream about my man. My future husband; the king that God is leading me to. He doesn’t necessarily look any kind of way, but he’s tall and he’s funny, and he has great taste in clothing and food. He loves the Lord, and of course, he loves me, so much. And as I think about him, I send up a small prayer, asking God to continue to do the good work in him so that he’s ready for me when our appointment time comes (because I’m working on me – okay?)
And would you know, that restores my peace.
One more Valentine's day "alone" won't kill you, in fact, it's just bring you closer to the love that awaits you. I know I’d rather be out cutting up with my man on the 14th, but the thought of knowing that we still have our days of love rightly ahead of us, with so many memories yet to be made, allows me to rest and not grow weary when I see other couples celebrating their love on V-Day.
Because mine is coming.
Before you go: How are you feeling on this Valentine's Day? Are you good? Did you spend it with friends? Leave a comment below letting me know how you're
Peace, peace, peace,