Goodbye to the Longest, Coldest, Most Drawn Out & Depressing Winter of My Life - In Style with Aley Arion
Things are looking up. Last time we spoke, I was pretty down in the dumps with my mental health all in shambles, which I linked to my social media intake, but again, things are looking up.
I just feel better.And would you like to know what I accredit this new found mental clarity to? Well I'll tell you: it's been my decrease in my social media intake and increase in my time spent with God.
*gasps* *shock* *amazement*
A discussion took place on Facebook surrounding my experience on the impact social media was having on my mental state, sparked by one of my readers & college classmates. I reviewed their post and I got to thinking, maybe I didn't make myself clear enough. From the discussion being had, it seemed as if I came off saying that social media was an addiction that I needed to undergo rehabilitation for... that I needed complete isolation from the world of social media in order to ween myself off of its effects.
And maybe this was true to a certain extent; I did need to ween myself off of it for some time, but not due to its narcotic effects. Social media is not an addiction for me, it's more of a stumbling block. A space for comparison, lost time, procrastination, and the constant eye of judgment. I mean think about it, we're judging everything we see: is this picture good enough to post? Do I like this picture enough to double-tap it? Do I agree with the nuances and sentiments shared in this tweet enough to retweet it? The individual who started the Facebook discussion, shared her concern for me because she herself had not experienced this type of relation with social platforms; which is beautiful. I wish, to God, that I could navigate through my social media with a childlike sense of amusement, but I can't. Not anymore at least. I blog and have a deep love for "the culture" and you want to know where all of this takes place?? SOCIAL MEDIA. I hate the beat the dead horse with this topic, but I couldn't think of a way to respond to her inquiry besides doing what I do best, writing about it.May seem sudden, but in this short time of limiting my social media intake, there has been a change. A shift in my focus.
And you may be thinking, "c'mon Aley... all of this because of social media?" And in telling you, yes.
The relationship we develop with our social media is different from person to person; and I respect that. As for me, I just need to post my pictures, interact with my followers, and mind my OWN DANG BUSINESS. 🙃
At this time, the weather is warming up, the trees are blossoming, and life is being restored on the Earth. I can now begin to say goodbye to the weight that my first winter in NYC brought on and greet this season of restoration with open arms and peace in my heart. I'm finding what works with me and if that means me being a little less worried about what everyone else has going on, then so be it.
Now, double tap dat. 💕
"Skrit" which is actually a jumper dress: Thrifted
Boots: New Look
Photos by the amazingly talented, Taylor Jerry (IG: @t4y.10r)
Before you go: Let me know what you think of the look in the comments below! How are things looking up in your life and what do you accredit the new light to? Share below, I’d love to hear!
Peace, peace, peace,